About a year ago I posted this, but I wanted to put it out here again after a lengthy conversation I just had with my mother and a friend. I also frequently have this conversation with my husband, because at times I feel like a "kept woman" after leaving my job. I get a guilt trip over not contributing financially, and he always jumps to the other side of the fence and is very adamant that I contribute way more by staying home. No, he's not a chauvanistic neanderthal; he's just a great husband who is very supportive of me!
What is the salary of a mom/housewife worth? The figure they keep tossing out there is $120,000 per year. Not a bad figure, hey? About 4 or 5 years ago, Andy got his USAA magazine in the mail, and they had an article in there on this very same topic, and they actually estimated it at around $140,000 I think. I like that number better. I wish I could find that archive in his office!!! Counting for inflation and cost of living increases, I bet it would be more by now!
Whichever number you assign to it, it still isn't enough, but let's assume it's a fair amount. When you think about all we do to keep our households running, we just couldn't afford to be without us housewives/moms. We do the cooking, cleaning, laundry, managing of the budgets, shopping, caretaking, and more. To pay a chef, drycleaner, accountant, personal shopper, daycare, and and other professionals to do these jobs for us, we would be spending three to four times more.
Want to know the main reason why I left the engineering field when my oldest child was born? Most of my paycheck would have gone to daycare. Once we had all of our children, there was no point in going back to work. Even when I had opened my own business, I was spending over $600 per week for PART TIME daycare for 4 kids. And I still was doing all of the household management anyway. No wonder I broke down and had Molly Maids come in once a month to do a good cleaning! That was $100 well spent in my eyes! For us, it is more fiscally intelligent for me to stay home.
Moms are still undervalued today. I hate the feminist movement; I am a firm believer that you should never feel bad about the choices you make for yourself. If you want to work, great! It shouldn't be because you feel like you have some bra-burning legacy to live up to. On the other hand, if it means providing for your family, then yes, you must do it, and do it proudly! And if you do it because you simply enjoy it and it makes you sane and happy, I applaud you! On the other hand, if you want to stay home because you like the lifestyle of being at home with the kids and doing the housewife thing, I applaud that too. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty or like you aren't contributing. Because believe you me, you are. At a rate of $120,000 per year.
But for those of you who think that even though you love being home with the kids, and you love nothing more than a sparking clean home and freshly baked cookies coming out of the oven, you are just playing house and not really doing anything with your life? There truly is value in what you do. And when you can't see the emotional and spiritual value in what you do for your family some days, realize this: you are saving your family a whole bundle of money on those professionals who could be doing it for you! As my husband loves to remind me....
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